Let's do a detailed analysis of our problems in life.
Imagine the following scenario: Bob is a 52 year old man working on a job that he hates for many years with a minimum salary that barely makes ends meet. He always finds himself not having enough money to pay his monthly bills. He's divorced and has been living alone for the past 10 years, he wanted to have a loving and fulfilling relationship, but can't find one. He eats a lot because he has an emotional eating habit. He's been overweight for many years, he worked hard to lose weight but always gains it back. When he is working, he finds himself suffering from a lack of energy and can't focus on the things he wants to accomplish. Let's imagine what kind of problems the Bob has in his life.
Bob's Problems | |
1 | Being stuck in a job that he hates |
2 | Not having enough money to pay all his monthly bills |
3 | Lack of focus and mental discipline |
4 | Lack of energy |
5 | Loses weight but always gains it back |
6 | Emotional eating habit |
7 | Does not have a happy fulfilled love relationship |
These are just some typical problems that people find in their finance, relationships and health. As I said none of these problems are the real problem, they are simply the symptoms that are caused by something deeper. If you examine these symptoms deeply, you will notice that these they are not independent,
They are ALWAYS connected by some kind of cause-effect relationship
The figure below is a current reality tree (a thinking process developed by business genius Eliyahu M. Goldratt) which is used for graphically representing the current reality of a system, in our case, Bob's life.
The arrows represent the cause and effect relationships. The current reality tree should be read from bottom up, and the lowest entry point is the root cause of all symptoms above
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Current Reality Tree of Bob's Life
This is just an example. If you do the same analysis for your own life, you will inevitably come to the same conclusion that...
The ROOT CAUSE of all life problems and frustrations is an INEDAQUATE SELF IMAGE (ISI).
ISI is the feeling of inadequacy that you formed by the age of five or six years old. It is one of the first things formed in your life. It has a lasting effect on your failure or success. It plays a more important role than any other single factor.
It's said that average people use less than 10% of their total potential. What do you think is limiting us from achieving our full potential? It is the INEDAQUATE SELF IMAGE that we formed at an early age.
Think about the mess you could make of even the simplest tasks assigned to you today with the self image of a six-year old.
Our ISI is formed in the first few years of our life from the CONDITIONING we received from our parents and others around us. They give us a feeling of inadequacy that lasts for years. And...
그렇게도 싫어하지만 그일직장환경에 묶여 있을 수 밖에 없다. 도무지 뭘 좀 해보고싶어도 돈이 없다 그 분아니라매월 밀려 오는 청구서를도무지 막을 길이 없다. 도대체가 집중이 않된다 어쩜정신이 이렇게나 산만한지 모르겠다. 도대채가 열정이 없다 힘도능력도기력도 없다. 다이어트를하나 요요가 계속 되풀이 된다. 정서적 불안하고 막막하고 어두워서먹는것 하는 것 모두가 계획과 거리가 먼 엉망 수렁으로 달린다. 행복한 멋진 사랑의 관계를 가질 수가 없다.
이런 모든 우리들의 고민을 개별적인 것으로 생각하고 각기 따로분류하여 각개격파를 시행하나 오히려 증상은 심해 질 뿐이다. 왜 그럴까. 원인이란 근본뿌리의 존재를 인지하지도찾지도 않기때문이다. 필림은 그냥 둔채 스크린을 계속 고치고 있다. 필림만 수정하면이런 모든 걱정염려는 일순간에 뜨거운 화로에 한 점 눈처럼 깨끗이 사라 없어진다.모든 문제의 뿌리는 캐 내려가면 바로 하나 '아담'이란근본에 이르게 된다. 이 근본 뿌리를 수정하는 순간 돈에서 섹스 사업에 이르기까지 생의 모든 것을 한꺼번에 다 해결할 수 있는 경지에 도달 한다. 인간들 사고의 공통분모는 '늘못난나'. 이를 기초로인생이란 일상을 쌓고 있다.
We are conditioned into believing that we are “no good” at certain kinds of activities.