서서히 망하거나 천천히 망하거나 한꺼번에 확 망하거나 갑따기 폭싹 망하거나
... 아무튼 틀림없이 확실하게 망하고 실패하는 방법이 있다. 확실하다.
111. 나 나 '나'만을 생각하고 '나'중심으로 행동하고 남응 도울 때나 시설-
노인고아등 사호적약자-을 방문할 때도 '나''나'중심으로 배려해라
222. 성급한 가정, 급급한 추측, 급박한 소신 등으로 결론을 내고 일을 진행
처리추진진행독려해라. 참담한 실패는 ㅂ장되어 있다.
333. 부정적인 태도를 견지하라. 끝없이 비평불평불만의 시선으로 온 주변을
바라보고 그렇게 '않된다못한다없다불가능하다안해못해어렵다..'를
연발하라. 자신의 불행실패는 물론 온 주변을 비참하게 할 것이다
444. 사랑 받기를 강구하라. 선물을 과도히 남들보다 더 주면서까지라도
분수에 지나친 어떤 것으로라도 댓가를 지불하고 사랑받기를 갈구하라.
실패비참은 물론이요 자신의 존재는 헛개비로 변하여 안뵈게 된다
555. 극도의 감정정서로 예절을 무시하고 극단으로 상대방을 대하라
무엇이든 말이든 행동이든 의견이든 거칠게 뚝자르고 불쑥 느닷없이
등등으로 극단적으로 극도로 상황을 대하라. 예절을 구시대 산물로
경멸하고 비웃으며 자신을 세워라. 자신만의 우물이 주어진다
5 Sure Ways to Fail in Business and in Life
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When someone falls down in life, there is probably something that pushed them down. Whether it’s a prevailing negative attitude about everything and everyone, or a good, bad or indifferent personality that led them to the place they are today, Nido Qubein has observed and labeled the common causes of failure in personal relationships, whether in business or at home. The author of 11 books, including How to Get Anything You Want (available in the SUCCESS Store), Qubein outlines the five reasons why people stumble upon failure:
1. Self-Centeredness
Nobody likes to deal with the person who is afflicted with the “Big I.” People who are preoccupied with themselves monopolize the conversation and always turn the subject back to their opinions, their abilities, their accomplishments and their agenda. They are so concerned about the interests of the “Big I” that they have no time to consider the interests of others.
The word success does not contain an “I.” The first vowel is the “U,” and until we learn to think of “you” instead of “I,” our batting average in business and in human relations will be close to nothing. The surest route to success today is to find out what others want and look for ways to provide it. This applies whether you’re trying to maintain a healthy and harmonious home atmosphere, sell goods and services in the global market or align a work force behind an ambitious vision. Being other-person oriented is a learnable trait, and it often comes naturally with maturity.
2. Hasty Assumptions
People who jump to conclusions rarely land in the middle of success. We often prejudge people and circumstances by surface appearances without investigating what lies underneath.
A middle-aged man in shabby work clothes walked into the showroom of a Chrysler dealership in Virginia. The salespeople studiously ignored him.
Finally, the owner of the dealership walked over and asked if he could help.
“How much is that car?” asked the man, pointing to the most expensive model Chrysler offered.
The dealer told him.
“I’ll take one,” said the customer.
“Very good,” said the dealer. “And how would you like to finance it?”
“I’ll write you a check,” said the man.
And so he did. And as he took delivery of his new car, he turned to the dealer once more.
“By the way,” he said. “Do you sell dump trucks?” The dealer proceeded to sell four Dodge dump trucks to this man, who was the owner of a local construction business.
Looks can be deceiving. Success doesn’t always wear Brooks Brothers suits and Gucci ties. It can also wear jeans and flannel shirts, coveralls and work gloves, or skirts and blouses.
3. Negative Attitudes
You may remember the little guy with the unpronounceable name in the comic strip “Li’l Abner” who went around under a perpetual rain cloud. Wherever he went, things went wrong.
Some people are expert rainmakers. They bring on their bad luck through negative attitudes. They know things are going to go wrong, and this faith becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
“Cheer up,” I once told my friend Bob, who seemed always to be on the losing side of life. “Things could be worse.”
“I know,” he said. “I once cheered up, and sure enough, things got worse.”
“Listen,” I said. “If you just have faith that something good will happen, something good will happen. I want you to believe—really believe—that you’re going to have a great day tomorrow.”
At the end of the next day, I called Bob to ask how his day went. “Lousy,” he said. “Just as I expected.”
I had another friend, named Charlie, who was just the opposite. If a load of manure fell on Charlie, he’d say, “Boy, think how this is going to help my strawberry plants!”
No matter what the weather was like, and no matter what his circumstances were, if you asked Charlie how his day was going, he’d say, “Today is the best day of my life.”
I once asked him: “Charlie, how is it that every time I see you you’re having the best day of your life?”
“Well, Nido,” he said, “Yesterday is gone forever and tomorrow is not yet mine. Today is the only day I ever have, so that makes it the best day of my life.”
Charlie died a few years ago, but I’m sure that his reward will be an eternity in which each day is the best day of his life. People loved Charlie. People avoid Bob. They’re afraid lightning will strike them or a tree might fall on them while they’re around him. And it just might happen.
4. The Desire to Be Liked
It’s natural to want people to like you. We draw strength and inspiration from our friends. The warm glow of friendship is a great morale booster. But when you try to buy friendship at any price, you cheapen the product. You end up not respecting yourself, and others don’t respect you either.
You win respect by setting high standards and living up to them.
5. Disregard for Courtesy
Some people go to the opposite extreme. They interrupt people at will, and they say what’s on their minds without regard for the other person’s feelings. They think the world should run on their schedule, so they show up for appointments when it’s convenient, and if they keep others waiting, that’s tough. To them, concessions are for weaklings and diplomacy is useful only as a manipulative tool.
Such people may be able to bulldoze their way to success for a while. But when they encounter reverses and they find themselves in need of supporters, they’ll find more gloaters than sympathizers. Courtesy is the oil that lubricates the machinery of commerce. It smooths the path to success in sales, in management and in personal relationships.