인간이 느끼는 무기력의 끝은 어디일까, 인간이 갖는 우울함의 끝은 어디일까, 인간이 바져가는 좌절의 늪 그 밑바닥음 어디일까. 자신이 만들어 가는 낙심낙담절망의 한계는 있을까, ..., 흔히들 그 끝을 죽음이라고 한다. 정말 그럴까 좌절절망낙심우울무기력 등의 끝이 죽음일까. 그렇지 않을 것이다., 그 깊이 그나락 그끝은 죽음 그것보다도 훨씬 더 깊고 훨씬 더 잔인잔혹 처절하기에 그 밑도 끝도 없는 수렁의늪 좌절의수렁으로 빠져들어 가는 지옥의고통을 받고 있는 그 생명체를 구조해 주는 것이 죽음이 아닐까 싶다.리아가 왜
스럼프는 정말 무서운 인생을 송두리채 말아 먹는 잔인한 바이러스다. 슬럼프라는 바이러스 좌절절망이러는 박테리아가 왜 번지고 일어나고 전염될까. 이 바이러스 박테리아는 부지불식간 무의식 중에 아주 적은 극히 소량이 바람결에 공기중에 날리어 떨어진다. 누구에게나 말이다. 그러나 영향전염을 받는이도 있고 오히려 면역력이 생기는 이가 있다. 왜 그럴까. 이유는 하나 오지 하나 뿐이다. 사랑 그 중에서도 "자기사랑"이다 , 내가 나 자신의 사람을 받지 못한다면, 내가 나를 사랑하지 않는다면, 내가 나를 사랑하지 못한다면, 나 나자신은 그 누구로부터도 사랑을 받지 못한다, 아니 받을 수가 없다. 한 발 나아가 내가 내 입으로 말하는 사랑은 가짜다. 이해관계를 앞세운 자신도 속고 있는 사기사람이다.
12kg만 빠진다면 정말 나 엄청나게 멋있을 터이ㄴ데..., 차가 bmw라면 그 누구보다 내가 제일일 터인데... 이 번 이 건만 완성하면 업계에서 내 존재감이 확 뜰 것인데..., 도대체 난 왜 이꼴일까, 아 또 실수를했구나 난 정말 구제 불능인가. 그 년/놈은 왜 허구헌낭 택클일까...아 그 자항상식만 아니었더라도
"자기사랑"이란 지금의 불완전한 모습, 지금의 모자란 모습, 지금의 불쾌한 분위기. 지금의 낙후된 환경여건주변 등 부족하고 모자라고 불완전하고, 못마땅하고, 역겨운 것들을 있는 그대로 인정하고, 받아들이고 사랑하는 것이다, 그리고 그 바탕 위에서 더 나은 나를 건설해 가는 것이다, 뿐 아니라 못난타인, 꼴사나은 이웃, 저질주변인뭉들을 있는 그대로 품어 보듬는 것이다. 이게 "자기사랑"의 전부다 "자기사랑"을 실천하고, 실핼하고, 행동하는 부류에겐 그 어떤 좌절부정의 바이러스 박테리아가 서식할 수가 없다. 오히려 자신의 성공출세재벌의 자충수로 다가 온다
This doesn’t mean you have to like everything about yourself. I love and accept my body as it is right now but would still like to drop a few pounds to feel healthier and have my clothes fit better. But self-love means accepting yourself right now, in your own imperfect skin! Then you can lovingly work on things you can change, like improving your health and fitness because that’s good for you. Waiting until you lose the weight or tone your body or make more money is NOT loving! You can love yourself at any weight, in any shape and with all your perceived imperfections! You love your friends and family with their imperfections, don’t you? Give yourself this loving gift!
Your uniqueness is beautiful. Your goodness as a person is beautiful. Your big heart is beautiful. Your caring about others is beautiful! Beauty begins within. Appreciate all the beautiful qualities you have that have nothing to do with your appearance. True beauty comes from the inside out. When you seek to do good, live with integrity, and practice charity and kindness, you radiate beauty. Even if you don’t see it, others do. So pay attention and appreciate all the beauty of your heart and soul!
Gratitude is very loving. The more you acknowledge all the blessings in your life, the more blessings you can attract. It also keeps you in a more positive frame of mind because it helps you remember how much good is in your life. It also keeps you from taking all the good stuff in your life for granted. Feeling good about your blessings warms you with love!
When you love yourself you can see you as your own best friend with your best interests at heart for you. And when you embrace a strong faithful belief system, it’s much easier to trust yourself because you also know that you’re supported. Focus on taking care of your health and fitness. Then you’ll feel better, which raises your confidence to help your life in other ways
Is your inner dialogue harsh or kind? It’s common to be more critical of your imperfections than you’d be with a friend’s. You know it’s wrong to hurt someone you care about. Apply that to self! Treat yourself as you would a friend—use kind words and accept imperfections. Stop calling yourself names like fat or stupid. You reassure those you care about. Self-love means cutting yourself slack too! It means accepting that you’re human and humans aren’t perfect. Get into the habit of reassuring yourself instead of having negative self-talk! The more you fall in love with you, the less self-insults. The less you put yourself down, the more you’ll fall in love. It’s great synergy!
If you don’t like being put down, break any habits you may have of assessing people’s faults. Picking on what’s wrong with someone is often done to make you feel better. Even if you do it behind the person’s back, it fosters negativity, which isn’t loving. Happy people tend not to put others down. Work on yourself! The more self-love you feel, the less likely you’ll be to want to pick others apart. It’s plain not nice, or loving. Find the good in people instead! That will make it easier to also find the good in you!
Don’t beat yourself up when you say or do the wrong thing. Accept that we all make mistakes and it’s okay. Find kind words to address the situations. If you break something it’s not the end of the world. It happens. You goofed and it will be okay! If you don’t give a perfect presentation, people won’t remember by tomorrow. You shouldn’t either. Forgive and move on. When you tell yourself whatever you did is okay, you’ll feel better about it, and you! That’s loving!
There’s a big difference between being kind to people and being a people pleaser. The latter isn’t loving. You can help people when you can but always make sure that your needs are met first. Self-love requires setting boundaries on what you can give to others. It means doing favors selectively, to people you want to help because you care about them, not to buy approval. When you love yourself, self-approval is the main goal. It’s not loving to help people at your expense. Set boundaries but always have a kind attitude to other people. Helping others is a loving act but take care of you too!
Do you complain about how people treat you? Take responsibility by accepting that nobody can do what you won’t allow. Life is your choice. Stay at a job you hate or look for a new one. Stay with a romantic partner who doesn’t treat you well or leave. Taking responsibility for what goes on in your life gives you power to change what you don’t like. It can set you free! Victims complain about what they don’t like. People who love themselves do something about it because they seek happy situations.
Do your best to be kind to yourself—every day! Saying “no” to what you don’t want is kind to you. So is eating healthy, walking, replacing negative self-talk with gentle words. View your whole self through a lens of love, not looking for your imperfections. Smile at yourself in the mirror. Say “I love me” often. Don’t let others treat you poorly. The kinder you are to yourself, the more your self-love will grow.