죽음을 마주하고 잇는 죽음과의 만남만을 준비하는 이 생을 떠나는 이들을 마지막으로 케어하는 잡을 가진 파올로 코엘로의 친구가 그에게 보내온 서신을 위대한영혼의 소유자 완숙의 인격자 코엘로가 남은 인류, 생존을 불태우는 이 땅의 인간들에게 전하는 "생의5대후회' 를 토하고 죽음의 긴여정을 떠났다고 한다.부귀학력지위 등등과 관계없이 공통으로 이 땅을 살아가는 '나'우리에게 전하고 있다. 후회없는 삶
마지막 숨을 내쉬며 '나'손을 죽음에 내어주기 전 '나'인생'최후 평가와변론을 어떻게 발표하시겟습니까
111. 타인의 기대치에 맟추는 삶을 살았다 나 자신에 충실한 '나'의 인생을 못살았다.
222. 인생을 대충대충 그 때 그때에 맞추어 살았을 뿐이다. '나'자신에 열심한 생이 아니었다
333.
The five regrets
(One of my friends here sent me a link while commenting on “Insult the dead”. I checked it and I stumbled upon a very interesting text by Bonnie Ware. Below a resumée: )
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.