The Quality Life
by Stephen Covey
The secret life is the key to a quality life and that in turn is the key to a quality culture, products, and services. Once in New York City, I attended the Broadway play, The Secret Garden. The play was particularly poignant for me that evening because my mother had just died.
사람은 누가뭐래도, 자신이 뭐래도 한순간에 동시에 3위상의 세상을 살아가고 있다. 다만 자신이 이를 못느끼고 눈치채지 못하고 살아 갈 뿐이다. 바로 개인적인삶의세ㄴ만ㅇ릐비밀상 사회적인생활세상 그리고 다른 하나가 자신만의비밀스런삶이다. 마음속 깊이 묻혀있으며 꿈털되고 피어나고 솟아오르고 살금살금기어오르고 ... 이런 것은 아내도 남편도 아버지도 부모도 제 아무리 가깝다할지라도 모른다. 도무지 알 수가 없다. 흔히들 그런 얘기를 한다. 혼자 있을 하는 행동이 그 사람의 진정한 인격이라고 그럴 수도 있다. 그러나 정작에 중요한 것은 이 비밀스런 자신의삶이 바로 자신의 삶의 질을 결정하는 삶의질 그 자체이다. 그리고 이렇게 태어난 삶의 질이 자신의 비밀문화 비밀산업 등을 만들어 낸다
동시에 살아가는 자신의 3위의 세상에서 ㅈ신의비밀의삶이 자신의 인생을 결정한다. 비밀스런세상에서 자신이 가지고 있는 진실의 실질적인 모티브 동기가 궁극적인 자신의 살ㅁ의 절대적ㅇ닌 모멘툼 추진력 탄력 기세 몰아가는힘이 된다.
비밀의 정원 비원에 지금 어떤 씨앗이 배양발아되고 있을까
The Tony Award winning musical is the story of a young girl whose mother and father die of cholera in India as the play begins. She is sent to live with her uncle in a large British manor. The old house is filled with romantic spirits. As the restless girl explores the grounds of the estate, she discovers the entrance to the magical secret garden, a place where anything is possible. When she first enters the garden, she finds that it appears to be dead, much like her cousin, a bedridden boy, and her uncle, still haunted by memories of his lovely wife who died giving birth to the boy. In harmony with natural laws and principles, the girl faithfully plants seeds and brings new life to the garden. As the roots are warmed and the garden cultivated, she brings about a dramatic transformation of her entire culture within one season.
In my many years of teaching and training, I have seen several such transformations brought about by proactive people who exercise principle-centered leadership and the Seven Habits in their secret, private, and public lives. When I returned home to Salt Lake City the next day to speak at my mother's funeral, I referred to the Secret Garden, because for me and many others, my mother's home was a secret garden where we could escape and be nurtured by positive affirmation. In her eyes, all about us was good, and all that was good was possible.
Our Three Lives
We all live three lives: public, private, and secret. In our public lives, we are seen and heard by colleagues, associates, and others within our circle of influence. In our private lives, we interact more intimately with spouses, family members, and close friends. The secret life is where your heart is, where your real motives are the ultimate desires of your life.
Many executives never visit the secret life. Their public and private lives are essentially scripted by who and what precedes and surrounds them or by the pressures of the environment. And so they never exercise that unique endowment of self-awareness the key to the secret life where you can stand apart from yourself and observe your own involvement.
Courage is required to explore our secret life because we must first withdraw from the social mirror, where we are fed positive and negative feedback continuously. As we get used to this social feedback, it becomes a comfort zone. And we may opt to avoid self-examination and idle away our time in a vacuum of reverie and rationalization. In that frame of mind, we have little sense of identity, safety, or security.
Examine Your Motives
The most critical junctures in my life take place when I visit my secret life and ask, "What do I think? What do I believe is right? What should my motives be?" These are times when I choose my motives. One such time occurred when I first heard Dag Hammarskjold say, "It is more noble to give yourself completely to one individual, than to labor diligently for the salvation of the masses." That statement had such a profound effect on me that I started to say to myself in regard to my relationships with other people, "Wait a minute it's my life. I can choose whether I want to make reconciliation with this person or not. I can choose my own motives."
One of the exciting fruits of the Secret Garden is an ability to consciously choose your own motives. Until you choose your own motives, you really can't choose to live your own life. Everything flows out of motive and motivation that is the root of our deepest desires.