사과하지마라

절대로 사과하지 마라. 그대는 완벽하다. 세상의 모든 인간들은 그대가 작아지기를 원하고 그대의 생각이 하찮은 것이길 원하고 심지어는 그대자신의 기분감정정서를 숨기면서까지 그대 자신이 행한 일을 폄하비하 평가절하기를 바란다. 그렇게하면 두려움을 피할 수 있고 분위기를 깨지 않을 수 있고, 불이익을 당하지 않을 수 있고, 또 않으려고, 않을 것으로 알아 하는 행동들이다. 그대의 내면, 진정한 자아, 영혼이라 불리는 그대의 진짜자아는그렇게 짜부러지고, 손상을 당하고, 상처를입고 찢어져...마침내는 그 연약한 감정정서라는 내면이 흠집이 생겨지고 영원히 지워지지 않는 상태가 이뤄진다.

그대 자신은 영원히 그대 자신일 수 있는절대적 권리가 있다,그대자신으로 살든 타인의 그대 자신으로 살든 우주라는 창조주는 개의치 않는다. 소위 말하는 그대의 자유의지에 맡겨진 것이다. 그런 권리를 부여 빋았다. 영원히 화려하라. 영원히 그대자신이어라. 이것-나자신. 나자신의화려함-때문에 절대로 사과하지마라. 외부의힘, 외부적사항, 외부적사람, 외부적기관단체가 말하고 판단하고 결정하는 그대는 그대자신의 그대가 아니고 그들이 바라는 또 할수있을 것이라고 하는 그들이 만던 그들의 그대자신이다. 그들의 그것에 영향을 받고 또 현혹되어 스스로를 그렇게 만들려고, 될려고 노력하지 마라. 지금여기의 그대자신이 아니고 멀리 저쪽 그들의 손에있는 그들의그대자신이다.불만만 쌓이는 불평의 인간이 되어 부정에서 부정으로 파멸처참이란 궁극을 맞을 수도 있다.

We live in a culture that constantly bombards us with images and media that tell us who we should be and could be. Then there are those people in our lives who push their opinions on us. Some of us are so influenced by external forces that we have a hard time finding our own voices and expressing our authentic selves.

These tips will help you develop the confidence and conviction inside your soul to express who you truly are. And they will help you to stop apologizing to the world for being you!

You can’t be responsible for how everyone around you feels about how you live your life. So stop worrying about how your family, partner, and friends will react to your choices, and start getting real about how

Throw away the big O, Obligation. Give up the G word, Guilt. And make a commitment that everything you do, you do because you want to. Even for things you don't necessarily love doing, ask, “What is it about this action that does matter to me?” and act from that place. It’s all about your attitude. You can choose to be a martyr and a victim, or you can choose to be authentic

We all construct images of who we think we are and who we want the world to see, and then attempt to live up to them. When the image you portray on the outside comes from who you truly are on the inside, you are being your authentic self. When the persona you show the world is based on fitting into expectations, ideals, and images set by society, your friends and family, or your work colleagues, you are living inauthentically. Choose to give up the false image and instead live from the inside out.

Every person is born with unique gifts, talents, and inclinations that they are naturally good at. When you find them and use them, these gifts lead you to real happiness and success. Think about Tiger Woods. Born to golf. No matter how much you practiced, you’d never be as great as him; he has a gift. You have gifts too. Start noticing the compliments you often get from people. There is sure to be a gift there.

Stop trying to fit into the expectations that outside forces—society, family, work, friends—have said you must achieve in order to be successful, happy, and accepted, and start asking yourself, “What really makes

me

happy?” Think about the times that you’ve been happiest. What were you doing? What did you have? Do the same for your most unhappy times. Compare the two to your life today and notice the gaps.

We all have things that set us off or that evoke an overly strong reaction. It is time to stop letting them run the show! Pay attention to situations that make you spin, get your mad factor going, or send you into the pool of suffering. Be the boss of your emotions by having and taking responsibility for them, and don’t let them drive your life. To be your authentic self, you have to know what is under the surface motivating you.

Being your most real self isn’t always easy. It often requires going against what everyone else is doing or thinking. Being authentic means being true to what feels right for you, even if it doesn't fit the needs and sensibilities of other people -- parents, partners, and friends included. We always know what the best action is to take for ourselves, it’s just not always easy. Be committed to being you, even when it’s scary, and even when other people don’t like it.

Know what you believe and don’t be afraid to express it. People who live their authentic selves have convictions that come from inside their souls, minds, and hearts. They know their Truth and are willing to stand in it, even when what they have to say makes others uncomfortable. Know your Truth in all situations and share it with pride and conviction, knowing that your unique voice deserves to be heard just because you’re you.

Be vulnerable. Share your most real self with the people around you—family, friends, and colleagues—and let them see all of you. The strong, the weak, the self-assured, the self-doubter, the funny, and the serious. Have and show your emotions fully—from sadness and happiness to anger and joy. When you keep the full range of your true self hidden, no one can know who you really are. While it may feel scary to be vulnerable, you’ll find that the more you show the real you, the more others will be willing to share their authentic selves too.

Unfortunately, the world is full of people, including our inner critic, who want to keep us small, to play along, and to be good girls and boys. When we listen to them by apologizing for who we are, or discounting our contributions, thoughts, and feelings, we squash our authentic selves. Know that you deserve to be all of you, all the time. Be brilliant. Be you. And never apologize for it. By Christine Arylo