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노무현 전 대통령이 23일 오전 경남 김해시 봉하마을 사저 뒤 봉화산에서 투신해 병원으로 옮겨졌으나 9시 30분께 서거했다. 노 전 대통령은 이날 사고 직후 사저에서 가까운 김해시 세영병원으로 먼저 옮겨졌으나 이미 의식불명 상태였으며 양산 부산대병원으로 다시 옮겨 인공호흡과 심폐소생술을 시도했지만 끝내 생환하지 못했다. / 한국아이닷컴 김동찬기자 dc007@hankooki.com

"Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things are, think about how good they will be!"

Everyone knows that a positive attitude is key to the successful life. But what happens when things go wrong? What happens when circumstances deal us a blow? We have a tendency to let our attitudes take the dive along with our state of affairs. Life deals us setbacks, both minor and major, on a regular basis, but if we are going to be successful, we need to know how to deal with them and keep our attitudes intact! We need practical tools to help us understand how we can go about keeping our attitude up, when the circumstances are down. Here are some thoughts to help us do so:

Take some time-out. I'm sure you are aware of what happens. You are going about your day and everything seems to be going well, when out of nowhere disaster strikes. All of your best-laid plans begin to tumble. Sometimes circumstances surprise us and we react. Unfortunately, this often compounds the problem because by reacting we tend to operate out of our weaknesses instead of our strengths. We make decisions that are not well thought out. We function with a bad attitude that says, "I can't believe this is happening!" The next time circumstances turn against you, take some time to just step back from the problem and think. This will enable you to deal with the issue at hand rationally, instead of emotionally. It will allow you to put your state of mind back into its proper place. It gives you the opportunity to choose your attitude as you face the circumstances at hand. Remember that we don't have to do something right now. Go grab a cup of coffee and relax little bit. By doing this you function with you being in control and not the circumstances.

A second step in keeping our attitude in the proper place is to make sure we keep the important things important. One of the biggest problems with trouble is that it gets your focus off of where it should be. When I experience difficult circumstances and people ask me how it is going, I tell them, "I am just keeping my eye on the goal." It has always been fascinating to me that when racecar drivers get into trouble, they keep their eyes straight ahead and do not move them away. There is just too much chance of wrecking that way. Instead, their eyes are on the goal, and this keeps them out of trouble. If you find yourself getting down about circumstances, sit down and write out what the goal is. Give some thought to how you can achieve that goal or others you may have.

A man was asked how he was doing and he responded, "Pretty well, under the circumstances." The other man asked, "What are you doing under the circumstances?" Good question. We shouldn't be under the circumstances. We should be focused on the goal and moving forward.

Focus on solutions, not problems. The squeaky wheel gets the grease, the old saying goes. Negative circumstances don't sit idly by. They scream for our attention. When we face difficult circumstances, we tend to dwell on them. We talk about them, fret about them, and give them way too much attention. Instead of talking about problems, talk about solutions. Instead of spending your time thinking about how bad things are, think about how good they will be! Don't have family or staff meetings about the problems and how big they are. Have meetings on the solutions and how you will implement them. Don't let yourself or other team members complain. Encourage them to solve, with an emphasis on the positive results that will come from doing so. Then take some time to put these solutions down on paper, so you can monitor your progress.

Get some positive input. The mind tends to build on itself, so when we begin to go in one direction, i.e. worry, it can be a slippery slope. One thing we must do is get our thoughts back on track with positive ideas. When circumstances have got you against the emotional wall, get with a good friend who can encourage you. Listen to a tape by Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar or another motivational speaker. Pick up a good book and give it a read. Whatever external influence you can get to put your attitude back on the positive side of the tracks - do it! It must be one of our first goals to start plugging good things into our minds to fuel our attitudes.

Tell yourself the good. One of the greatest internal powers we have is the power to control our thoughts. Spend time dwelling on the good things about your life or job instead of the problems. Think about positive things, things you enjoy and give you a sense of happiness and peace. There is an old childhood song that says, "Count your blessings, name them one by one." That is great advice! Let your positive attitude develop from within as well as from without. This makes all the difference!

Remember that circumstances are not forever. Sometimes it seems like we are going to be up to our eyeballs in the situation forever, when in reality, this too shall pass. There will be a time in the future when circumstances will change and you will be on the mountain instead of in the valley. This will give you a sense of hope as you live and work that will change your attitude, make you feel better and put you on the fast track for growth!

Some questions as we close:
Q. Do you have a habit of reflection before responding?
Q. Do you have a habit of keeping your eye on the goal?
Q. Do you focus on solutions or problems?
Q. Do you give yourself positive outside influence?
Q. Do you have a habit of telling yourself the good?
Q. Do you remind yourself that nothing is forever?

<盧전대통령 서거> 혐의와 의혹(종합)

잘못되어 가는 일상과업무 일 환경과여건과관계 갑갑답답해 하며 시간을 흘러보내는

인생 낭비하지말고 얼마나 멋지게 잘 진행되어 번쩍하게 이룩되어질까를 생각하라.

긍정적인 자세가 성공인생의 마스터키임을 우리 모두 누구나가 다 아주 잘 알고 있다.

긍정적린마음 긍정적세 긍적적인생각 등 바로결심결정생각하는 그 순간엔딱 똑바른 정자세로

임하여 출발 한. 그러나 어느 순간 없어져버리고 만다.

주변이 잘못돼어 간다. 환경여건상황이 한바탕 회오리가 인다. 돌개바람 게릴라가 내려친다.

이런 상황에서 우리들의 자세는 찰나의 주저함도 없이 그것들과 함께 패배자로 자신을 몰아간다.

큰 일 사소한 일을 불문하고 이런 자세를 취하는 것이 일반적인 경향이다.

그러나 인생에서 성공적인 삶-창조주가 허락한 것-을 살기를 원한다면 억누르는 거친 상황에서

어떻게 자신의 영혼정신마음생각태도자세를 상승무드로 유지하고 지탱할수 있는지를 알아야만

한다.실질적인 도구로 가라앉는꺼져가는 상황을 반전역전끌어올리는 상승작업을 실행에 옮겨야

만 한다. 여기에 몇 가지 방법을 소개한다.

멋지게 완전무장하고 완벽한 계확으로 폼 잡고 아랫배에 힘을 주고 목과 어깨를 세우고 문을

나선다. 아무런 곳으로부터 의외의 택클이 없다면 모든 것은 맘먹은대로 신명나게 진행된다.

그러나 약간의 계획이 흔들려 차질이 생기거나 주변환경이 조금만 뒤뚱거려도 분위기는

다운돼버린다.생각할 틈도 없이 무의식적으로 평소의 습관버릇대로 즉각적으로 반응 한다.

그러나 참 불행하게도 강한쪽으로 힘있게 용감하게 적극적으로 열린 마음으로 도전자세로

반응하기 보다는 가장 처참하고 초라하고 비참하기까지한최악의 상황을 상상하는마음으로

자세태도를 취한다. 결과적으로 아주 나쁜 결론을 만들어내고는 "왜 내개 이런 일이 일어났는지

도무지 믿을 수 없다"고 좌절분노하게 된다.

이후부터 주변 환경여건은 항상 적대적 상황으로 택클해 온다.

문제로부터 한 걸음 뒤로 물러서라. 감정적으로 반응대응하지말고 현실의 자리에서 이성의

시각으로 이성적으로 문제를 바라봐야만 한다. 마음의 상태가 현실로 돌아오면서 지금 있어야할

위치로 생각의 위치가 달라지고 조정되어지면서 현실 상황과 실체를 바로볼수 있는 자세가 된다.

지금 당장 그 문제를 정면으로 바라볼 수 있는 대담한 자세태도를 취할수 있도록 도와 준다.

그러나 꼭 지금곧당장 뭔가를 해야할 필요는 전혀 없다.그런일은 절대로 없다.

마음의 장난이요 마음의 속임수다. 생각의 함정이다. 허상이다.

반박자 쉬어라 종이컵을 잡고 반박자만 뒤로 물러서면 내면의 자아로부터

문제를 관리 컨트롤할 수 있는 자세태도가 형성되고 행동할 지혜가 생겨 난다.

주. 꽤나 많은 방법들이 열거되어있다. 위 부분은 단지 서론부분으로 입문이다