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멋진 주말 어딜가까 망설여지나뇨 힘찬년초에 아직도 늘어진 느낌이신가요. ...지금 자신의 처지 환경 여건 주위주변 ...그 어느 하나라도 맘에 차질 않고 괜히 짜증이 나시는가요. 그럴 수있습니다. 이거 마약으로도, 성적쾌감으로도, 개콘으로도, 돈으로도 그 어떤 것으로 치유힐링쾌유가 아니됩니다. 물혼 일시적 순간적으로 벗어닐 수야 있겠지만 어느 순간 다시 제자리에 와있는 자신을 만나게 될 것입니다.

몽롱한 회색의 불만세계를 벗나는 영원한 길은 "너 자신을 알라"로 알려진 그 구체적 시행령을 실천하는 길 입니다.이거 철학 아닙니다. 아주 쉽고 단순합니다. 야간보초가. "누구냐"라고 묻는 것과 꼭 같습니다. 이게 철학인가요 아니죠 실생활 중의 실제 아닌가요. 그렇습니다. 자신이 자신에게 준 미래상, 자신이 자신에게 지시한 자화상 자신이 자기에게 부여한 자기위상 등 자기 정체를 확실히 하고 자기정체에 자신을 일치시키는 자기완성의 길에는 그 어떤순간 그 어떤 환경 그 어떤이로부터도 회색의 부정적세계는 없습니다. 절대로 없습니다.

 

Build Your Identity And Change Yourself

Our identity is who we are. When we fail to change ourselves, the thing we tried to change is usually in conflict with our identity. Morals, or other behaviors, that are in conflict with our identity get avoided because we do not see ourselves as the person who does such actions.

Build an identity so that you see yourself as the person who does what you are trying to achieve.

Visualize. Dress in a way that is congruent with the identity. Stick up pictures related to your goals around your workstation. Hang around people who have achieved what you want to achieve.

Act “as if” you are that person you want to be. Also, do whatever you can to see this future you desire in a way that is as great as possible. Make this an everyday ritual.

Once you build a strong identity that is congruent with who you want to become, there will be no doubt – just pure certainty – about doing what you once struggled to achieve. There is no question about doing the task because you will be the person who does what you once struggled to do. You will just do it.

And once you've built your identity, you're now more 'sure' of yourself and your ability to communicate with others. But don't take it too far...

For instance, there may be some occasions when we want someone to do something. And some people mistakenly resort to ordering others. But this is a definite No-No!

Giving an order shows a lack of confidence in others. Seeing people rebel against you only makes you lose more confidence in them, which makes you order and control them even more! So what can we do? Here's one effective solution...